First You Then Anybody Else (Charity Begins From Yourself)

It is always very humane and good to help others and work without expectation of any kind, for the needy. Some of these cases are like to help a poor boy/girl to understand some concept in mathematics if he/she is not able to take private tuition or go to school, feeding an old disabled man, caring about someone who is mentally retarded or is ill etc. This humane quality should be present in every human being to help others. But this quality shall not come in a person so much that he should forget himself and stop caring about his/her self. Now people would say that Mother Teresa also did the same but she also used to not care about herself but only about the needy and the poor. In order to explain this point I would first like to tell the person that Mother Teresa's soul aim was to serve the needy and the poor. She was not a lady who had to take care about her kids or who wished to go ahead in her life by getting promotions or incentives via work performance etc. To be precise her work was nothing other than to serve the God's sons & daughters heartily and with pure love and care. But what today I have seen people is that they either just donate money, clothes or food and do not even bother to see that these things are being provided to the needy or not. But this is not what, I am writing this blog post for. But I am writing it for those people who are normal human beings like me and you and then too they try to become angels forgetting that if we have to serve others then we should be in such a position that we are carefree from our side i.e. regarding our development, our work, and our progress etc. Many wise men has also taught us that we should take one job at a time and then can we only achieve good results in it. But I have seen people who are not satisfied by themselves, they themselves have not learnt or followed the path God has showed, and even they are do not sometimes know their goals and even if they know they do not do anything in order to attain them. But then too what these people preach is self motivation, self realisation and to be non selfish, even when they themselves are not satisfied and crave for more. I also know such good people like one of my dear one who is very sweet at heart and does everything to make people around happy but what this friend of mine gets back is nothing. So what I want to advice here is that until and unless we are in such a position that we can really help others without expecting to get anything back we shall not think of helping others. We should first concentrate on ourselves because if we are strong if we are satisfied then only we shall come forward to help others. We should first start the charity from ourselves and from our home first. Then we should think about others if we are hungry ourselves then how can we provide food to others. We should first make ourselves strong we shall concentrate on our goals and achieve them and then only can we teach the kids that what are the ways to survive in this world. So the moral of the story is that if we cannot help ourselves, if we cannot work hard for ourselves, if we cannot achieve our goals and if we cannot satisfy our desires then how can we say that we are capable to help others, to teach others or in my friend's case help someone else come on the right path when we ourselves are doing nothing to start this charity or helping attitude or this instinct to help ourselves in order to move ahead in our life. So before we think about others we should first give a little thought or ask a question to ourselves that have we done the same with us or with our near and dear ones who we might be neglecting or might be overlooking thinking that as they are near to us we can anytime take care of them. But friend this is the wrong attitude first we should think about us about our old parents and then we should think about others this is not being selfish because we have seen a lot of times that people commit suicide due to self negligence and loss of self motivation no matter if they are very social and helpful to others they failed to realise and help themselves and lost their precious self/life. Several times we have heard that people leave their parents in old age homes and on the other hand same people donate lakhs of money to cancer aid societies so isn't this ironical friend? We can also see it like this, that if all those people we see as oppressed and needy would have helped themselves then there condition would not be like what it is today. If these people would have helped themselves no matter how hard they would have tried I bet they would be better than what they are today but what they did was that they neglected themselves they failed to realise that it was they themselves were those who could have helped themselves. But what they did was they laid there hands in front of other people which should not be the case. So Help Yourself Be Happy Be Successful & then Help Others as GOD Loves You & He Wants You To Be Strong Enough To Spread His Love Around!